Note: I wrote this a few months ago, but it's been sitting in my "drafts" folder, waiting for me to publish it... Since this issue of pertussis's cycling locally and what to do about it has recently come up on a one of my group's yahoo list, I thought to go ahead and post our own experience, just to share it, for what it's worth. It was a significant part/season of this last year of our lives' adventure together, and began a year ago next month.

I think that I hadn't yet published this in part because of my own felt guilt for the fact that my daughter contracted this illness, when I've struggled so much over whether or not my husband and I should or could have prevented it all by having had her vaccinated. However, after years of research, we were more afraid of the vaccination(s) than the disease, and honestly convinced that there really wasn't very much of a chance that our kids would ever actually run into and contract pertussis. I definitely learned a lot from the whole experience...

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Shortly after a whirlwind couple of months of my husband's losing his job, our preparing for and putting our house on the market, signing a contract within a week of it’s being MLS listed, all the packing and then closing on the sale of our home within the next month, we moved to the Chattanooga area of TN, landing in the home of some dear (generous) friends who'd offered us an interim place to stay while we looked for a (temporary) place to rent that would allow our 110# German Shepherd to live indoors with us, as he's always done. It was during that crazy month of August, 2009, while all 13 of us were living crazily cozily together, sharing the space of a 1500 sq. ft house that, unbeknownst to us, Pertussis, aka. The Whooping Cough came to call... It stealthily made the rounds, touching all of the children within the household but one, and also infected two of the five adults living there. My youngest daughter came down with the whooping cough the week before her second birthday. Our 10 year old daughter had a mild case (compared to the other children), and our 13 year old son wasn't at all effected (thankfully). They had both been immunized two years prior with the DTP, for tetanus, which ended up protecting them from this scourge of pertussis.

All of the other stresses of this particular soul-stretching-season of my life aside, nursing (figuratively and literally- seemed like she wanted to nurse constantly!) my daughter through this terrible illness was what had me praying the most… and it lasted for the better part of eight weeks! Looking back, if it had to happen, I am thankful for the timing, that it was during this time when I had nowhere that I needed to be or take our other two older kids to, since it had me pretty much home-bound for most of that time, since we never knew when little Savannah would have a coughing attack, which would inevitably bring on what she called “choke”, which was her gagging and throwing up three to four times a day, or more, and EVERY night after I’d lay her in bed to sleep, like clock-work. The few times that we were in the car when an attack would come on were so crazy-scary, with me diving in the back seat to lift and pull her up out of her car-seat so as to keep her from choking on her own vomit, while at the same time trying to catch it... with her all the while trying to catch her precious breath.

It all started with her having what I thought was a common cold, for about a week... with my friend’s one year old having had similar cold symptoms the week prior. However, my friend (in whose home we were staying) had developed this nasty cough shortly after our arrival there, and her oldest teen-aged son had come down with the same cough (but neither had had any other cold-type symptoms), which quickly moved into both their chests and turned into a persistent rattling, choking cough which would wake up the entire house numerous times during the night. They thought, insisted, it was allergies...

About a week or so after their coughs developed, her youngest daughter started to have what seemed like asthma attacks in the middle of every night, where she’d be gasping for her breath and there was lots of prayer and wondering if she should go to the emergency room going on. However, during the daytime hours, she’d have no symptoms of illness whatsoever, not even the coughing... Therefore my friend was thinking that they must all be suffering from some sort of respiratory allergies, an assumption that was confirmed to them when they brought their youngest, the one-year old in to see her doctor due to the persistence of the cough she’d also just developed, and the way that she was even turning blue as she’d lose her breath in a coughing spell. She was sent home with a “don’t worry” and a prescription for allergy medication. I felt certain that it was more, that it had to be some sort of infection, either viral or bacterial, with the way that it was being passed around amongst them (at this point none of mine were sick yet). But how was I to argue with a doctor? Everyone kept saying that it wasn't anything contagious... It was just my gut feeling that said otherwise, but as I watched the kids coughing up huge amounts of mucus, I was afraid, and I prayed for healing of these sick littles of my friend's, as well as protection over my own, even as I administered elderberry extract and lots of vitamin C.

Savannah on her 2nd Birthday

A couple of days later, Savannah coughed for the first time, and gagged, and threw up… it was the night before her birthday. I vividly remember just breaking down crying as I was cleaning the mess up off of her and the floor… I just knew that this was something much more sinister than a passing respiratory allergic reaction… I’d watched it being passed around from one, to the next, to the next of the children. I was scared. My friend had been coughing for weeks now. But since no one else had yet thrown up, I was the only person who, at this point, suspected that it was all connected. I felt trapped (we had nowhere else to go yet) and wondered out loud to God what was going on here?!

The next week we finally found a place of our own to move in to. Then, within a few days I got a phone call letting me know that my friend's one-year old daughter was in the hospital, and had now been diagnosed with having pertussis, also known as the whooping cough. Now we knew what it was, and as I googled and read, it all became so clear that this highly contagious bacterial disease is exactly what they’d all somehow contracted from who knows where shortly before we'd arrived. Oh, I was scared, as I read on- of how it would get worse before it got better, of how there wasn’t anything much that I could do for my miserable baby girl.

Now that she was well past her first week into it, antibiotics would be useless. At this point, for my own peace of mind, I did take her in to see the doctor as well, even though I knew what she had and that there wasn’t a whole lot I could do about it at this point. I did it, however, as a precautionary measure, so as to make sure that she didn’t have a secondary infection, which can sometimes develop and which would/could have been life-threatening, and would have required antibiotics. The doctor confirmed that there was nothing that I could do, and that no, she didn’t need antibiotics. He told me that the word in Chinese medicine for this disease means “100 day cough”, and warned me to brace myself, as it could last a very long time yet. He also explained that even once she'd healed (in the next month, or two?), her cough would be easily aggravated, and return with simple colds, possibly for years to come. He then admonished me to do what I’d already been intuitively doing during her attacks; holding her and soothing her during the coughing spasms by speaking gently and encouragingly to her, helping her to relax as much as possible… and just. BREATHE.

Let me tell you, there is nothing worse than hearing your baby gasping for breath, and its not coming… seeing the terror in her eyes, lifting her as she’s gagging on vomit that’s lodging in her throat, praying that she catches her breath in time, without choking in the process… praying that it will just go away!, wishing she could sleep for more than a few hours without the coughing attacks waking her, wondering how long this could possibly last anyways? The doctor also agreed that, as I knew, it was very good for her that I was still nursing her, since she was getting lots more antibodies and nourishment from me that she’d not otherwise have had to help her fight this mess... not to mention that she'd hardly keep anything else down!

I remember at one point having a sore throat for a few days, and an itching/tickle sensation in the back of my throat that made me want to cough a lot. For a couple of nights I had a small rattling in my chest and I was wheezy for the better part of three weeks or so. My case was very mild, compared to the others that came down with this, for which I was so very thankful, since I didn't think that I could emotionally/mentally take much more at that point without snapping (remember, the rest of our life was also being completely shaken!). All I could think of was how thankful I was to be able to pass on some extra antibodies to baby Savannah, for whom I was so worried. There were a few days when all she wanted was to nurse.

Some Things We've Learned to Help with Treating Pertussis:

Well, we did happen to learn a few things along the way that I'd like to share here in case they can be of help to and bless someone else.

  1. Caution. If you even think it might be remotely possible that someone in your vicinity might have this, stay away. Apparently, from what I've been told and have read, this stuff- the whooping cough- cycles around every few years. It's out there, so be careful. I'm really not wanting to spook you, hate that I'm probably sounding like such an alarmist or scare-monger, but having witnessed it first-hand, and have seen that it is just SO highly contagious (even though we did everything right to build up our immune systems), and bad, bad, wicked illness stuff.
  2. If you suspect that you or your kids have been around someone who's infected, see your doctor immediately and tell him/her the situation. Ask them to test you, see if you can get on a round of antibiotics asap, since apparently they're only effective if you catch this junk in the first week after you've contracted it. The tricky thing is that at this point you wouldn't necessarily have any symptoms yet, besides maybe common cold symptoms... hmmm. See what I mean? Wicked stuff! And for the record, though I'm not usually a big fan of antibiotics, in this case, if I could have, I most certainly would have used them to curb the mess. Uggh, it was horrible... If/when you ever do take antibiotics, make sure that you're also ingesting good probiotics daily, you and your children. You'll need more than you can get just eating extra yogurt with live cultures.
  3. Probiotic supplements can be bought at healthfood/supplements stores if you aren't already culturing your own via live-culture yogurts, kefir, kombucha, lacto-fermented veggies or the like. They are indispensable to your body's immune system, and you'll need extra doses when you're sick, especially if you've been on antibiotics, which kill the good guys right along with the bad ones, at any point in your life. I've read that something like 80% of your body's immune system is (or isn't?) in your gut!
  4. Lobelia tincture (which you can get at the healthfood store) was worth its weight in gold during this ordeal! We added a few drops to our drinks throughout the day, to help open up the airways, and ease an attack. I happened to have already had this on hand, to help with mine and my son's slightly asthmatic symptoms, like the wheeziness he'd get when playing sports. Instead of using an inhaler (as I did when I was a kid), I'd add about 8-10 drops of lobelia to his water or Gatorade bottle, and he wouldn't have the wheeziness and tightening of his airways! During the couple of weeks that I was battling the pertussis in my own body, I kept it in my water bottle (from which Savannah would take occasional sips) and it helped me out a lot. It's a blood thinner too, so use with caution. Read up on it, be informed.
  5. Fenugreek seeds also help with the breathing. I took this in capsules (which I also had on hand, it's also good for increasing a nursing mommy's milk production), for Savannah's sake, hoping that she'd get some via my milk. My friend made tea from the seeds.
  6. We made up a mixture of essential oils for treating the congestion that smells wonderful. I'd rub it on my baby's chest, back and the bottoms of her feet. To a base of Vit. E oil, add a few drops of peppermint oil, eucalyptus oil, lavender oil, thyme oil and camphor oil.
  7. Humidifier (warm or cold mist), in the bedroom at night. This is always a good idea any time someone is sick. I like to add essential oil of oregano to ours, in the medicine reservoir, which not only gives a warm, pleasant smell, but also has strong anti-viral and anti-bacterial properties. It's good to drink a little bit (like a few drops- it burns) in some hot tea if you can stand the bitter taste of it! I do this, but wouldn't expect my kids to.
  8. Stengthen your immune system: Probiotics (as mentioned above), cook with lots of garlic (eat it raw if you can!), use extra-virgin, organic coconut oil (we like to put it in our morning kefir/fruit smoothies), high-lignan flax seed oil, Vitamin D drops, Vitamin C supps., Elderberry extract, herbal teas with local, raw honey (if you can get some), and keep good cough drops on hand to suck on. We like the Zand brand. The cheapest place I've found to buy most of our supplements is at vitacost.com.
  9. Eat smaller amounts spread out throughout the day. This helps to minimalize the vomiting that's brought on by the gag-reflex triggered during the violent coughing spasms. I also learned to not feed Savannah right before bed, but to make sure that she ate a very light lunch before nap-time and that she'd had dinner well before her bed-time- at least a couple of hours earlier. Again, this is where it was very helpful that she was still nursing, as she was much more apt to keeping mama's milk down than anything else. Also, eat lots of anti-bacterial foods, like those rich in pro-biotics, and also lots of GARLIC! I love to cook with fresh garlic, making hummus (a yummy veggie/chips dip) with lots of raw garlic in it, home-made chicken noodle soup, and miso soup are just a few of our favorites for fighting the crud, any crud.
  10. More Herbs for Whooping Cough Treatment (Click to view.)

Controversy: the whole Vaccination Issue thingy that never seems to go away, nor be completely resolved in my own mind... along with the rest of our pertussis story.

Okay, I really hadn't planned on writing a book here, but besides our own testimony, and sharing what we've learned that might help others dealing with it, there's this issue of whether to vaccinate, or not, that's been a tough one for me for years! First of all, I would like to say straight away that I am not here to tell you what choices you should or should not choose for your own family. I do not even begin to think that I've even remotely figured all of this one out! However, my husband and I do know that there are certain vaccinations we would never recommend, get ,nor have administered to our children.

With that being said, about the time that our 14 year old son was five, and our now 11 year old daughter was two, we stopped vaccinating our kids, with the blessing and even recommendation of our naturally minded M.D. He was of the mind that so many of the vaccinations out now are totally unnecessary, and even potentially harmful, and the few that he did recommend, he said would be best given when a child was around 10 years old, after their immune system had had a chance to develop on its own. Now, obviously, that M.D. was the exception, as most of the pediatricians we've dealt with since moving have said and felt otherwise. Anyways, my point is just that we should try and be informed. Our decision not to vaccinate our baby girl came about after years of our researching and trying to be informed.

Jesse Hawkins has written a very informative article regarding making this vaccination decision as it relates to pertussis outbreaks over on her blog. Here's a short excerpt::

Pertussis Outbreak and Some Facts

One of the most popular talks I give is on the subject of vaccination. With so many scare tactics, misconstrued facts and anecdotal stories whirling around, finding accurate information about the risks and benefits of vaccination proves to be difficult at best. Now parents have an additional concern – there is a pertussis (whopping cough) “epidemic” in California, and if it continues, experts say it could be the worst in over 50 years. (The first vaccine was introduced in the 1930s and the vaccine was widely used by the 1940s, so this does not take us back to the pre-vaccine era, but does come close.) As of June 15, 910 cases have been confirmed and another 600 have been suspected – though as you will see, this could be a dramatic underestimation.

The emerging epidemic, assuming it reaches those proportions, has parents reevaluating their vaccine decisions, and is adding confusion to the already cloudy subject. What is causing this? Should we get additional vaccines? Is this caused by the anti-vaccine crowd? etc, etc, etc… Like anything, the story goes much deeper and is much more complex than any simple answer can provide.

Click here to read the rest of her article!

The surrealness of this whole illness seemed to be magnified by the fact that after that first week of cold-like symptoms, most days little Savannah didn’t have any other symptoms of illness, besides the cough. She'd play and carry on like her spirited, happy little self. This was, for the most part, the case for everyone who came down with it, and it was also interesting/weird how the sickness seemed to manifest slightly different symptoms in each person (10 of us altogether) that got it. However, when my (at thew time) 10 year old daughter, Tabitha, came down with it, she had one day of being feverish and lethargic, in which she mostly slept and sipped hot tea for her sore throat. The next day she felt better, but then a couple of days later, she started having a mild case of the coughs, which only lasted for a week or two in her case.

Tabitha had been vaccinated against pertussis a couple of years earlier, as was her older brother, who never contracted it at all. Savannah, however, had not been vaccinated... a decision that I began to really question, and then regretted, wondering if we could have avoided all of this mess! Eventually I was totally beating myself up over it, once I realized with certainty that pertussis is what she had. The bright side is Savannah will now be totally immune to it for most of her life, around 60 yrs. is what I read, versus the 8-10 yrs. that a vax will (possibly) protect. But OH, it was such a fight to get through it! I'm honestly not sure, if I had it all to do over again, that I wouldn't just rather have given her the vaccination... which brings me to my reason for sharing this whole story with all of you. I almost didn't vaccinate Nathan and Tabitha, but did, for the tetanus part of the vax, since we lived on a small farm.

Though the vaccination can help (as it did with my older kids), it's also no guarantee that one won't contract pertussis, as was evidenced by the fact that my oldest daughter still came down with a mild case (interestingly she also had a bad reaction to the vax, with lots of painful site irritation). When Savannah came down with it, I was really beating myself up so bad and feeling just so regretful and horrible, since we hadn't vaccinated her. A friend of mine called me up one morning (right when I really needed a lift!), said that she really felt like the Lord had led her to call me, and asked if I'd had Savannah vaccinated. My heart just sank, and trying hard not to get defensive, I said "no, she hasn't been vaccinated". Then to my surprise, she started to share with me of how years ago, before I even knew her, they'd almost lost one of her now older daughters to pertussis when she was two years old. She'd ended up in the hospital too, and she said that she had even been fully vaxed beforehand too, but still came down with it, and that it seems to cycle around every few years. Then she prayed with me (it was a VERY hard couple of months!).

Quite a few others around here, who had been vaxed, came down with it, besides the friends we picked it up from and us. It was really hard on my friend, who got it right along with her kiddos (the vax wears off eventually), and is STILL having a horrible cough from it that hits her if she even just laughs too deeply. It had been a long time since she'd had her booster. My case was ever so mild compared to most of the others as well, probably because I'd had a booster eleven years prior when I'd worked in a hospital. Anyways, if only we'd have known to catch it with antibiotics in the first week, but like I said, it makes its appearance as a simple cold, and there's just no way to know really, unless you KNOW that you've been in contact with someone who has it! Neither my husband, nor my friend's husband came down with it at all either...

During those months of battling pertussis, I was reminded of just how fragile this life really is, and of what a daily gift our physical health is. Most of all I was reminded of what a heavenly gift our children are, and of how protected we live. Even in the midst of our trials, emotionally and spiritually exhausted as I was from the previous few months of my husband's losing his job, our losing our home, adjusting (or not?) to a bit of (loud, rambunctious, chaotic, unforgettable) blessed communal living, and then being totally physically drained from cleaning up vomit numerous times a day, for over a month, and holding/nursing a baby who clung to me 24/7! as her life was turned completely upside down, from where she lived, to how she felt, the most prevalent realization in my spirit during all of this was I think simply... thankfulness... since yes, I TRUST Him, my Great Redeemer, my Savior and Lord. Yes, strange as it sounds, even as I was crying out to Him for mercy and healing, I was more aware of our blessings than before. I am thankful, for His hand of protection that I sensed was, and still is, hovering over us with a holy intent to redeem, restore and to renew... Yes, we have so very much for which to be thankful for.

Baruch Ha Shem Adonai, Bless the Name of the Lord.

Please feel free to share your own thoughts, concerns or experience with either pertussis or the whole vaccination issue(s)... It's an open, as in undecided, topic for me, in many regards. We quit vaccinating our kids (besides the DTP booster that N and T received a few years ago) when T was 18 months, and N was 4.5. Our little Savi hasn't yet received any vaccinations at all, and we're deliberating over whether or not to go ahead and have our older kids vaccinated for some things. FYI, click here to see my list of links/bookmarks on this topic of vaccinating.

I was just so thankful that our daughter wasn't any younger when she came down with this! There are certainly no easy answers regarding this whole issue of whether or not to vaccinate. All I know is that in those moments of my baby girl's not being able to hardly catch her breath before choking again on another cough and its induced vomiting, I was sure wishing that I'd just had her vaccinated, risky or not... even though before that I'd been SO confident in my/our resolve NOT to vaccinate our kids. It's such a personal decision one has to make after weighing all the options, each vax's merits and potential complications, etc. versus the validity of the protection they may offer, and then each parent according to their own conscience and convictions.

Truly, the more I learn, the less I know... *sighs*

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Jul
09

a strong foundation

By Beth · Comments (2)

Why is it that some of the most elementally important of things seem the hardest to do?

Yesterday I did something that I've wanted to do for a long time... I went to a gym and began a serious exercise routine/program with my husband, whose already been at it for an entire week now (I know, wow-right, a whole week so far? Together, we shall sustain this momentum!). Our 14 year old son has gone with him and absolutely loves it too. N's also been faithfully running every other day or so for the last year and is up to 3-4 miles per run. He and Chris have both inspired me to just DO it- and so I did. Taking the time (for me) to work out last night, and then again this morning to walk a couple of miles (by myself, while the kids were still asleep) has been exhilarating, and set the precedent for a new level of my commitment to health!

As Chris and I made fun of each other amused ourselves over his new role as "bossy knowitall workout coach" to myself and our son, we also talked about the importance of this new endeavor of ours: regular exercise, so as to strengthen our bodies and increase our health. Chris reiterated the importance of what I have been doing for awhile though, which is learning and teaching the rest of the family how to take care of the insides of our body as well, because we all know it doesn't matter how good you look on the outside if you're feeding disease and dysfunction on the inside (Whoo- lots of object lessons there- huh?!). I'm the "nutritional coach", and it's been a fulfilling challenge learning how to cook and care for myself and my family more healthfully over the years; however as important as that is, it's only part of the big picture.Without regular exercise, our over all health is still lacking, no matter how good we eat.

As I'm sure is the case with so many people, this exercise aspect of my health, foundational as it is, has sadly been sorely neglected in the hustle and bustle of daily living and caring for everyone else... Meanwhile my good intentions are mostly blurring into valid reasons why I *couldn't* or just **didn't*, and as the pressing scenery of the days files right past me on this great road-trip that is my life, they are quickly pushed aside, and eventually... forgotten.

I was able to get away with its virtual neglect in my twenties, without much outward evidence, but now, being on the other side of 35 (and when did that happen again?!)... let's just say that besides my really wanting to be healthy and boosting my life's longevity for the sake of my family and Kingdom-work, my own body's aging changing has also been providing much needed inspiration and determination to make a change lately!

Through regular strength-training and cardiovascular/aerobic workouts we'll be working towards improving so many important aspects of our physical health, which when you think about it is really so very fundamental to our existence here on this earth... we only get one "body/earth suit", without which we have no place/ability to exist this side of eternity, and how well we take care of it (or not?) drastically effects every other aspect of our lives and effectiveness of our lives' work. Right?

All of these musings came full-circle for me this morning, as I considered what a wonderful time I had being with my husband last night, just "hanging working out" together (yeah, we haven't gotten *away* for enough *dates* lately), and how much more motivation and energy I had this morning to do other necessary things. As goes my mind, I began relating the nuances of our physical health and ramifications thereof to the this same principle of nature as it correlates with that of our family and homeschool life... of which relationship is foundational, especially that of husband and wife.

I think we'd all agree that having a strong marriage is foundational to our having a secure family and ultimately to furthering every other aspect of our existence in this world- be it positive or negative- in others' lives and especially in that of our children. I've learned over the years though, that this goal oft-times seems elusive and even once (if) apprehended, sustaining it takes a LOT of commitment and decided work towards that end...

Our marriage is also an aspect of our life that we LIVE with to such an extent, like our own bodies, that as with our bodies, the necessary attention and effort needed to maintain the health of a marriage is also easily overlooked in the hustle and bustle of daily living... Simply, we take it for granted, until one day we look in the mirror and wonder how we got here?!

As with body-maintenance, marriage-maintenance takes REGULAR, daily work! I don't think that the Lord intended for it to be something we get all done and accomplished once and for all, or once we do arrive at a place of overall health and ultimate functionality, we must certainly continue in doing that which got us there, lest we lose it all over again! As we strive to strengthen our marriages, we are building a strong foundation for our home(school), based upon the ultimate foundation that is our very LIFE, the Truth of HIS Word. And the results will be a lasting testament to His Faithfulness, strength and fortitude of character found in the very hearts and minds of our children, and hopefully even our children's children, centuries later... still STANDING.

I will not even attempt to give you a checklist of things TO DO, in an effort to improve the health of your own marriage, for besides the (obvious!) fact that I am no expert, every marriage is unique to its players. What your husband needs from his wife is different from what my husband needs and desires from me, and so on (talking specifics here, not the obvious: unconditional love and sincere respect, etc.).

Lately my heart has been so heavy for some struggling and recently broken marriages... how fragile our hearts are, and is there anything more devastating to one than the death of that which we have wrapped up our heart and stored our dreams within? Believe me when I tell you that Chris and I have had (and do even still have) our share of marital challenges, and yet my heart is also full of thanksgiving for the miracle of LIFE that Adonai has worked in our marriage these last 15+ years, and what a blessed sanctuary is this place of peace between us now,  that only comes from a history of mutual disappointments shared, trials conquered, trust earned, loving acceptance and respect witnessed.

May our marriages be a safe and hallowed resting place to which we can quickly return from those spontaneous spats, inevitable disagreements and life's oft-stress-induced emotional explosions.

I would however like to share a few quick nuggets, praying that they would serve to edify your own resolve to strengthen that most foundational element of your homeschool, your relational life with your spouse, which trickles right down to your kids in the most profound and often-times frighteningly evident manner.

Regarding how our relationships and the atmosphere, or spirit, within our homes which they do kindle effects our kids, this quote about sums it up for me,

The spirit of the house is in the members of the children by nature, not by teaching, not by any attempt to communicate the same, but because it is the air the children breathe.... Understand that it is the family spirit, the organic life of the house, the silent power of a domestic godliness, working as it does, unconsciously and with sovereign effect -- this it is which forms your children to God.
~Horace Bushnell, Christian Nurture, 1861.

Intimate Issues: The Making of a Marriage Bed by Ann Voskamp of Holy Experience {Beautiful TRUTH! Just READ it, TRUST ME, you'll be glad you did! I even had my husband read this one, and he totally appreciated it too.)

The Marriage Bed LOVE. love. LOVE. this. poem.

Me and my Prince... a meditation of mine from five years ago, but still did me good to re-read it. The prayer at the end shall ever be the cry of my heart.

LORD, Help us to be vigilant, to seek you in prayer, to DO the work necessary to maintain the health of our marriages, the very foundation of not only our homeschools, but of our life's entire being and ministry unto you.

Love never fails.

~ 1 Corinthians 13.8

I am determined to do whatever it takes to finish well, working towards both my own physical health, as well as fortifying the health of my marriage, that our family, our homeschool would have a strong foundation.

Embracing the adventure,

This post was originally published at The Homeschool Post on July 6, 2010.

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My latest review of one of our Bible resources, The Greenleaf Guide to Old Testament History, went up last week over at The Curriculum Choice, and I've been so busy here that I hadn't even get around to posting the link from here yet... until now. ;-)

Greenleaf Guide to Old Testament HistoryYears ago, when we first started homeschooling, another veteran homeschooler recommended that I take a look at “the Greenleaf history guides” from Greenleaf Press, and I am so glad that she did, and I did! I ended up buying a few of them and have had no regrets whatsoever! They have turned out to be a perfect fit for us in many regards, at different seasons in our homeschool journey, but today I’d like share with you specifically regarding The Greenleaf Guide to Old Testament History by Rob and Cyndy Shearer, “History for the thoughtful child.”.

Click through here to read the rest of my review.

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Jun
01

So much to tell…

By Beth · Comments (9)

As my daughter, T has taken to saying lately, in her most serious Tigger voice "Halloo..." Anyone out there? Remember that job that Chris interviewed for way back in January, the one way up in PA? Well, he was offered the job just over a month ago now, and life here has been hectic-crazy-busy ever since. We were so blessed to find a house that we could all land in, quickly (and I'll share more about that asap!) and so we've moved from TN- here to PA- just a couple of weeks ago.

Surprised? I sure am, we all are!! We'll be getting regular high-speed internet again soon (Yipppeee!), so I won't have the whole limited broadband deal to contend with like we've had this last year (with having the Sprint card for a high-speed connection- albeit a limited amount each month- it was our only option where we were living out in the sticks this last year of limbo), which is why my 365 Project bombed, by the way. It just took way too long to upload pics via the dial-up connection I had on my iMac, and I didn't have the software I'd have needed to upload my pics to the lap-top- it was in storage this last year, along with most of our stuff. That was fun, moving all of our stuff out of storage, and putting much of it back into storage up here... temporarily, hopefully. Yeah, we've been so busy.

Like I said, so much to tell of late... but today, I have to accomplish a few other things around here first, before I can indulge myself in sitting here to write what will probably need to be a series of update posts . I will be back to tell more soon though. Change is exciting, isn't it?!

Meanwhile, I've posted a little something over at The Homeschool Post, Life: Interrupted. Hop on over there and please leave us a comment!

ttfn (ta-ta-for-now) ~Tigger

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May
13

TruthQuest History: my review

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My review of something we're loving using during our days of learning at home is up for this month over at The Curriculum Choice. Check it out here: TruthQuest History!

TruthQuest History guides by Michelle Miller are among my favorite, most valued homeschool resources; a gem that I am so thankful to have found. You see, we haven't ever read our history solely from a textbook (though I have actually found a favorite one recently- that we're reading from as a spine at the moment!) and since I'm usually designing our history and literature reading plans by pulling from a variety of sources, from the best book lists of literature and biographies to primary sources to documentaries and movies, etc., I began to realize early on that I really needed help- a way to help me tie it all together, to mindfully keep the big picture of our LORD's Sovereignty over the affairs of men before us as we learn.

Enter TruthQuest History...

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I'm thrilled to have recently joined the team of homeschool mama authors over at The Curriculum Review, and this is my first review to be published over there. I hope that you'll find it helpful!

Apologia's Exploring Creation with General Science has been a perfect fit for our son, Nathanael, who's in the eighth grade (age 13/14) this year. It is the first course of the Exploring Creation with... upper level Creation-based science curriculum series written by former University Professor, Dr. Jay Wile, especially for homeschool students. Apologia General Science, 1st EditionHere's a description of the course from Apologia's website:

This course is designed to be a student’s first systematic introduction to the sciences. Although it can be used for eighth grade (especially if the student has recently left the public schools), it is typically used best in the seventh grade. The course covers such topics as the scientific method, designing experiments, simple machines, archaeology, geology, paleontology, biology, and human anatomy and physiology. Its scope, therefore, is quite wide. There are many hands-on experiments to do, and they all use household items.

I am glad that we waited to begin this course until eighth grade, for Nathan, and with him working on Physical Science next year, this will still place him in Biology in his 10th grade year, which is where many other curricula schedule it anyways (BJU, Abeka, etc.). I think that Apologia must recommend it for seventh grade, since they're assuming your child will complete one of their upper level science courses also (Adv. Chemistry or Adv. Physics). This is certainly something to consider if your student is headed towards a science career. However, for our purposes, this course has been just the right speed for Nathan this year, who will still be completing four years of lab sciences in his highschool years. From our experience with Apologia's General Science this year, the two attributes of this program that have stood out the most in my mind have been:

  1. Principles of Creation Science, Applied & Discussed Throughout. I have especially appreciated how this course has not only presented our son with an abundance of clearly explained fundamental science concepts and terminology, but also how the information is presented, conversationally framed within a Biblically sound creation-based worldview. This has been refreshing, particularly with all of the evolutionary/millenia mantras we're so often inundated with when enjoying so many otherwise wonderful science/nature books, or watching our favorite nature shows and science documentaries on tv.
  2. Good Study Skills & Habits, Facilitated, Learned & Applied. Our son's been learning more than just science! This easy-to-use course has offered a timely means by which Nathan has been learning some invaluable study habits! His independence with this course has really instilled a level of self-confidence and sense of accomplishment in him that we're both enjoying. He likes knowing exactly what's expected of him, and being able to "knock it out", while I'm enjoying not having to tell him what to do every day! He has risen to the challenge of memorizing ALL of his Vocabulary words' definitions for tests, which he also diligently records in his notebook as he's reading the text, along with his answers to the On Your Own questions spread throughout each module. He's learning how to reword essay questions within his thoughtful answers, and is actually even enjoying the whole process of seeing his efforts in studying for a test pay off with a good score! So overall, this course has offered our young student a perfectly balanced taste of traditional schooling methods that our Charlotte Mason, relaxed-eclectic homeschool hadn't yet offered him much of up until now (besides his math).

How We've Used this Curriculum: My goal was to set Nathan up with enough organization and direction so as to enable him to be virtually independent in this course, and yet I wanted to be able to oversee his progress and know that he's getting the most out of this wonderfully informative course. The system that we set up has worked beautifully and provides just the right amount of accountability and structure to keep him on track, while simultaneously allowing me to see where he needs correction or encouragement. The first thing I did was print out a schedule from DonnaYoung.org, where you'll find lots of wonderful resources and helps for this and other books in the Apologia Science Curriculum line-up (even their Elementary series- which we've also used and recommend!). We've been using Schedule Two for the First Ed. of General Science (there's also schedules for the Second Ed.), which spreads the first module out over three weeks (since there's a LOT of information there in that first module!) and schedules most of the labs separately from reading days. I also set Nathan up with a notebook and directives per LindaFay's suggestions, as found here: How We Organize Apologia Notebooks. He has the schedule/syllabus (that I printed out from donnayoung.org-see above) in the front of his notebook, which tells him EXACTLY what he has to read or do that day. We look over his list of supplies needed for upcoming labs (mostly household items or something you can easily find at the store if not already in your home) at the beginning of each module and we try to collect the week or two prior to his needing them. So far, so good! Next year I may just buy a lab supplies kit. Setting up this organized notebook system has turned out to be a monumentally beneficial tool in facilitating his independence, and I plan to follow this same organizational method for all of his Apologia courses. It ends up being a nice record of his work too, already bound and organized. There are 16 Modules in the textbook, intended to be completed in one year. They are as follows:

  • Module 1: A Brief History of Science
  • Module 2: Scientific Inquiry
  • Module 3: How to Analyze and Interpret Experiments
  • Module 4: Science, Applied Science and Technology
  • Module 5: The History of Life Archaeology, Geology, and Paleontology
  • Module 6: Foundations of Geology
  • Module 7: The Fossil Record
  • Module 8: Uniformitarianism and Catastrophism
  • Module 9: What is Life? (DNA)
  • Module 10: Classifying Life
  • Module 11: The Human Body: Fearfully and Wonderfully Made
  • Module 12: Energy and Life
  • Module 13: The Human Digestive System
  • Module 14: The Human Respiratory and Circulatory Systems
  • Module 15: The Human Lymphatic, Endocrine, and Urinary Systems
  • Module 16: The Human Nervous System

Nathan usually works on his science five days a week, for about 30-40 minutes at a time. He says that now that he's gotten used to the routine, he has sincerely enjoyed reading the text, with its conversational tone being quite enjoyable. I'm thoroughly enjoying the spontaneous narrations that he's giving me as his interest is peaked over various subject matter, along with our ensuing discussions. Honestly, I've enjoyed reading this text myself too (on my own time), and we're both so glad to know that we have found a challenging, yet Biblically-based science text to take us all the way through highschool! As College Preparatory classes, this Exploring Creation with... series of science texts by Apologia will provide kids with the academic foundation they need, both scientifically and apologetically! This course is sold as a set of 2 Volumes: A hardback Student Text, and a soft-cover Test & Solutions Manual. We've been using the 1st Edition, since I found it for a song at a used curriculum book sale last spring. However, I do plan on buying the updated 2nd Edition when he proceeds to Exploring Creation with Physical Science next year. So, what are the differences between the First and Second Editions of the Apologia texts you may be wondering? In general (for all of the Apologia texts, as from their website), they are:

  • Dr. Wile has been answering student questions on each of these courses for seven years or more. Those questions have allowed him to realize what sections of the books could be written more clearly. Thus, these editions of our courses are even more understandable than the first editions!
  • The student text has graphic icons that tell the student when there is a related multimedia presentation on the optional companion CD.
  • There are course websites that have links to materials which provide extra help as well as interesting news related to each field.
  • There are cumulative tests in the solutions and tests manual if the parent/teacher wants to give the student quarterly, semester, or final exams.
  • The tests in the solutions and tests manual contain a point system that aids the parent/teacher in grading the tests.
  • Finally, even though the module tests are found in the solutions and tests manual (so that the parent/teacher always has a copy of them), a second set of tests is also provided in a perforated booklet. This will allow the student to be given the tests without referring to the solutions and tests manual.
  • PLEASE NOTE: Because of the differences between the first and second editions, students in a group setting cannot use both. They must all have the same edition. Because of this, the first edition of the course will still be available for those in schools or support groups that use the first edition.

Differences in the Editions of the General Science text specifically, as described by cbd.com, are as follows:

This second edition includes updates on relevant topics as well as stylistic changes. The primary function of the appendix (discovered in 2006) has now been included, as have higher-quality drawings and more colorful illustrations. Online resources for advanced students and a review appendix have also been included in this 2nd edition. This kit contains both the student textbook and answer key.

Thus, the differences weren't enough to matter much (to me), when I had such a good deal available on an immaculate copy of the First Edition, since the overall text and presentation is pretty much the same. Therefore, I think this review can serve as applicable to both editions. If you get the Second Edition, it will just be even nicer! We're looking forward to trying out the multi-media CD that goes along with the Second Editions, like this one for General Science. Apologia General Science, Module 1According to our young scientist-student, the "Pros" of the program so far have been:

The first module has been my favorite so far, because I found it interesting reading about all of the different scientists, since I love history. But one thing puzzled me; I didn't understand why Benjamin Franklin wasn't included in the list of well-known scientists who set the stepping-stones for modern-day science, and yet Alexander the Great was on the list. Overall, I find the course enjoyable.

However, I should mention here that he's just now working on Module 9, and looking ahead at experiments and material covered as he studies "life", I'm thinking that he's going to be enjoying the second half of this book even more than the first! I'm excited anyways, and just so glad to have found such a dynamic science program! and the "Con" (the only one he could think of!):

I've liked most of the experiments so far, but some of them can be a little dry.

Again, after gathering the supplies for the experiments in this module we've just begun, and looking forward, I'm thinking that Dr. Wile saved the best for last in this book, and Nathan won't be disappointed (I know that I'm not)!

Christian Book Distributors has the best price that I could find for buying the Apologia curriculum new.

General Science Lab Supplies Kit from Nature's Workshop Plus! at cbd.com

FAQ at Apologia.com

Apologia Science: Exploring Creation with Biology (Charlotte Mason Style), A Squidoo Lense by HarmonyArtMom which I will certainly be referring to when we get to Apologia's Biology in a couple of years. You can read more about how Barbara makes Apologia Science texts work for her family over at her blog, Harmony Art Mom.

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Apr
13

Charlotte Mason Blog Carnival

By Beth · Comments (0)

This week's edition of the Charlotte Mason Blog Carnival is being hosted by Cindy of Our Journey Westward: The Charlotte Mason Carnival Goes on a Woodland Walk”.

These wonderful carnivals are something that I'd sure like to do a better job of keeping up with, as they always provide so many great reads! Check out all the wonderful entries, and remember that you can even submit your own article for the next edition! Just use this submission form.

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Next year our home school will be venturing into a whole new frontier, we'll be homeschooling>> high school?! Yes, our oldest child will be entering the ninth grade, and to say that I have been a little bit overwhelmed, nervous and quite intimidated by this fact for some time now would be a bit of an understatement. However, I'm finding that the more I read and hear from those who have gone before me, the more encouraged I am that YES, we can do even this!

I thought that I'd just share some of the (online) resources from which I've recently been gathering information and gleaning encouragement and direction as I'm preparing my own mind, and planning/mapping out our (tentative) itinerary as we begin this next leg of our homeschooling journey together.

It's really not even our actual *learning* together/ educating part that I'm most concerned about (besides being able to fit everything in!)... I have all kinds of wonderful ideas and plans for that- if I can just stay focused! No, it's more the record keeping and transcript-planning-college-prep/pleasing part, etc. that has my mind all in a jumble and my stomach doing somersaults. Thus, I've been surfing the net and listening to other homeschoolers who have already done this, and whose kids have or are successfully attending college or trade schools, etc.

First off, I have been so encouraged and blessed by the writings of Lee Binz, The Home Scholar. She specializes in helping parents homeschool high school. Lee's 5 part mini-course, "The 5 Biggest Mistakes Parents Make Homeschooling High School." is available for free, and she also offers a Total Transcript Solution for purchase. Her Squidoo page offers a myriad of helpful lenses, such as Homeschool Record Keeping in Highschool, each one offering tons of topical information (be sure and scroll down the page to see the table of contents) and an abundance of other free resources for your encouragement, as does her blog, including informative articles such as "What Is A Homeschool Friendly College?".

Being a homeschool mom with Charlotte Mason aspirations, I was (gladly) reminded last week that though there will be challenges, and some necessary planning on my part, the basic mainstays of our homeschool will stay the same! My own inclinations and vision for our homeschool were re-confirmed as I read the first of a three-part series, "Basic Mainstays: Homeschooling through High School the CM Way, part 1" posted over at SimplyCharlotteMason.com's blog. I'm looking forward to reading the rest of these articles!

Also as I was surfing the net, attempting to educate myself, I found this interesting Squidoo lens, created by a "worldschooler" named Andi, Unschooling Teens: Freedom and Education, that appealed to my/our own *relaxed* bent. Lots of information and encouragement there, scroll down the page to check out all of her links and anecdotes! She writes,

I've been through the whole thing - all the way until I was accepted into my top choice college and awarded 60% tuition in grants. (My second-choice offered me a free ride - tuition, books, and room & board.)

And you know what? You can do it too. You can follow your interests during your teens years and have an incredible launch into your adult life.

Here's some more FYI articles and resources for homeschooling high-school that I've found helpful so far and will be combing through (again and again, I'm sure!) over the next few years.

We realize how close we are to ending our homeschool adventure with this child. The world, in the guise of a college admissions officer or an employer, will soon be evaluating whether we have succeeded at our homeschooling task. How absolutely frightening!

Fortunately, we can dilute this fear by carefully planning the high school years. This involves understanding the expectations that await our students when these four short years are over.

We are and always have been "relaxed homeschoolers", meaning that our studies don't necessarily begin at the same time each day, our days are structured more by rhythms and routines than they are by schedules and time slots, and often-times the plans will even change, depending upon ______. However, one thing I've really focused on this year, that I think will help me immensely in preparing for and making the most of the years ahead, has been consistency in having our study plans ready each week, and then having the discipline to follow through with most of our plans.

I'm not exactly sure why this has been so hard for me over the years, besides just the fact that I'm generally convinced that my kids are learning worthy lessons in most of their free-time, aka. unstructured learning, anyways. Also, I've always been a pretty easy-goin', free-flowin' artsy/creative type... And so, although I'm usually fairly relaxed and confident that it will all work out right in the end, I've had my share of panic-stricken moments as I've wondered if there's really even any hope for me to do a good job of this whole homeschooling through highschool thing with my kids?!

When I read this article about Homeschooling through highschool by Janet Leake, a fellow self-proclaimed "relaxed homeschooler", I was reminded (again!) to relax,  even as I plan and diligently apply more discipline and structure to our studies where and as needed, and also relieved to hear someone speaking my language who has done this! She writes,

Ignore the people that say “You’re not going to try to homeschool in high school, are you?” as if you were embarking on some wild rafting trip. Homeschooling is fun, and it’s even more fun with older kids. They can do more, think more, persevere in long-term projects, and even help with the driving on long field trips. Removed from the most damaging parts of peer pressure, they’re a lot easier to get along with than when they went to public school.

and,

The “relaxed homeschooler” attitude seems to work best for our family, and I recommend it for high schoolers. Choose your battles—win the war. Does it really matter if they start promptly at 7:30 on algebra, or do their coursework in a certain order, as long as it gets done?

As soon as I'm discouraged and tempted (again) to think that I could never homeschool (highschool), I am reminded "Is anything to hard for the LORD?", and that with His help, some good planning and consistent efforts to meet our goals, we shall homeschool through highschool and will hopefully even do a good job of it!

...being confident of this, that he who began a good work in you will carry it on to completion until the day of Christ Jesus.

~ Philippians 1.6

I would love to hear from you, any of your own thoughts, recommendations of resources or any other sage advice that might help to equip and encourage all of us homeschooling high-school newbies.

Embracing the adventure,

This article was featured over at The Homeschool Post on April 6, 2010.

all images are from allposters.com

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Mar
22

The Ark

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Our oldest daughter, T, who just had her eleventh birthday last month, is an artist, and a gifted writer too. I hope to post some more of her artwork soon, but just had to share this drawing she did of Noah's ark recently. The drawing alone I love, but then last night she wrote this poem to go with it, which when she read it to me this afternoon, brought tears to my eyes. She said that she was laying there as she was going to sleep, "thinking of riddles and rhymes in my head" when it came to her and she had to get up to write it down before she forgot it. I am so glad that she did.

The Ark

Sustain a ship as giant as the Earth,

As wide as the Ocean,

As deep as the Sea.

Sustain a ship, I command Thee.

Sustain a ship to set us Free,

Sustain a ship for Me

And Thee.

With April's being National Poetry Month, I thought that we'd celebrate T's poetry by submitting her recent creation here to this week's Carnival of Homeschooling. Be sure and check out all of the other wonderful entries linked there!

Enjoy, and homeschoolers be encouraged... I had just recently been bemoaning the fact that I hadn't yet tackled formal poetry-writing lessons with our writing daughter, but as it turns out, she's been able to express herself amply anyways, on her own time and of her own volition (which is always more fun anyways!). She says that she draws inspiration from the many books and poems that she's reading daily. She's inspiring me now, and we'll be doing more creative writing together this month as well, as befits a month set aside to celebrate poetry!


Carnival of Homeschooling

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Feb
18

ruminations regarding time

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Last year was an eventful one for our family. We had our lives turned totally upside down, with my husband's running out of work, which led to our having to sell our home last summer, and then, while leaving most of our stuff in storage, we relocated to a new city for another job opportunity which has so far mostly dissolved into disillusion and disappointment...

Meanwhile as Chris applies to job after job (over 60! so far, the last of which he found out had over 1900 applicants, and he was doing good just to have been in the top 5% who got an interview!), we are living in limbo, this faith-engaging transitional season with no known end yet in sight, and though we are thankful for our temporary month-to-month rental, I am so ready to be settled again, to feel at home.

According to Mirriam-Webster, the word limbo is derived from the Medieval Latin word limbus, which means border:

2 a : a place or state of restraint or confinement b : a place or state of neglect or oblivion <proposals kept in limbo> c : an intermediate or transitional place or state d : a state of uncertainty

And though it may sure feel like a sort of purgatory, as any bona fide Believer who's spent much time walking with our Lord will tell you, times like these are simply a part of growing, a time meant for teaching us to trust Him, a time to receive strength in our weakness... We are His Church, His Beloved Bride whom He loves, His children whom He disciplines, and teaches. In this knowledge, I do rejoice and take heart, knowing that this time has great potential!

sky blue church

Consider it pure joy, my brothers, whenever you face trials of many kinds, because you know that the testing of your faith develops perseverance. Perseverance must finish its work so that you may be mature and complete, not lacking anything. If any of you lacks wisdom, he should ask God, who gives generously to all without finding fault, and it will be given to him.

~ James 1.2-5

In many regards, it feels like our lives are somewhat on hold, as we're still living off of dwindling equity money, praying for an income as we're waiting on Adonai to multiply our efforts, and bless Chris with a job, wandering in a wilderness of sorts, wondering where Adonai Yir'eh (The LORD who sees; Gen. 22:14; Adonai sees and knows all of our needs intimately -rendered in the KJV & transliterated as Jehovah Jireh) will lead us. However, we are finding unexpected blessings along this way as well...

For instance, we've been enjoying all of the extra *home-time* we've had together this year, since we've been uprooted, and transplanted, hesitant to become too involved locally, knowing we may be moving, yet again, at any time. Without such busy days, and all of the extra-curricular activities that we've had going on throughout our weeks in years past, the kids and I have found so much more time for creating, reading more books aloud together again and just for playing together as a family, etc. Chris and I have been drawn into studying the Word together more, and we've been so much more consistent with our family Bible times again too. This whole school year has seemed like a sabbatical of sorts for all of us, a special, hidden, safe time... a time to re-group and re-calibrate, check our bearings and prepare for the journey that lies ahead (homeschooling highschool?! next year, for one), whatever that may be.

In the midst of all of this change and uncertainty, I think that we have found extra comfort in just being *home* (together) more, and the extra down-time that it's afforded us to homeschool- here, at home... not having to rush here or there, and not having encroaching schedules and deadlines from lots of extra-curricular/outside activities limiting nor interrupting what we'd otherwise like to be pursuing has been nice for a change. Of course, those times we've had so much going on have been wonderful too, and it will sure be nice to get involved in a lot more again, all in due time, as there's a lot of activities that I/we have been a part of that we miss and would like to get involved in once we get settled again. However, I was somewhat surprised last month when my kids declined my offer for us to get involved in a local homeschool co-op here this semester, saying that they'd rather not, "because we're liking just being home more and having more time to do stuff here". Interesting, I thought, as the weight of some (apparently needless) self-imposed guilt over all that we'd left behind lifted.

Yes, I have just simply been so blessed as I'm rediscovering that indispensable resource that we as busy mothers and homeschoolers so often find ourselves short on... time. This continuity of uninterrupted time at home has been invaluable, allowing us to re-discover and pursue some interests, to fine-tune our homeschooling rhythms and to just find that thinking spot again. I've gotten more organized (which granted, is easier to do with less stuff!), and have been pleasantly surprised to hear our two oldest children exclaim to me numerous times that this has been our "best homeschool year yet"! Wow, really?!

The Lord has been answering a prayer that's resonated within my soul for years... Regarding time and money, I am choosing to listen to the Master, who gives faith, by which I am trusting my Messiah. He is teaching me an invaluable lesson.

Teach us to number our days aright, that we may gain a heart of wisdom.

~ Psalm 90.12

Our greatest homeschool resource is not money- to buy all of the books on our wish-list, or season passes to all of the museums we can visit, it's not music lessons, nor the latest, greatest co-op or curriculum... it's simply TIME. We all have it. Time to spend together, to apply ourselves to learning, reading, laughing, creating, listening, sharing, time for choosing when we should be putting the world aside to spend these preciously short days together with our children, as well as time for knowing when we should be jumping into our extended community with both feet!

I've been reminded that our kids really do value time spent with us, their parents, more than anything else right now... even as a tween and a teen. Imagine that?! I've also been reminded that our LORD is ever-faithful, and He knows what is ultimately best for us, and is always working on our behalf (if we're truly seeking to make Him LORD of our lives, our time and all of our other resources). I'm learning that no matter what life brings our way, we always. have. time... so long as we're breathing. While I sometimes find myself grieving over wasted time, I'm relieved and thankful for time anew this morning, today... hopefully tomorrow. Time together with those I love, such a boundless gift.

wisteria time

I'm finding myself praying for wisdom regarding my/our use of this invaluable resource on a daily basis... that I would choose wisely how we spend our time, because it is so fleeting. One thing I've seen over the years, is that the Lord's BEST for someone, for a family, can sure be circumvented by a whole lot of otherwise GOOD things. And naturally what is time best spent for each and every family will be different. There's no cookie-cutter formula/answer on this one. Nope, it's something we must each carry to God in prayer, individually. I'd venture to say that this task of time management is also one of the most important lessons we'll teach our children... One of those lessons they'll learn by way of habit, and are more likely to catch from watching and being with us, rather than from anything we say. Sometimes, that's a scary thought, huh?

One HUGE area in my own life where the Lord has been dealing with me regarding my own personal time-management issues ('cause I've got issues! lol), which is also fatally tied in with my own personal biggest hurdle/regret as a parent, has been my idolatry selfishness over-indulgence with time spent on the computer. There. I said it. What started out so innocently years ago, soon morphed into an addiction for this often overwhelmed, self-indulgent, non-disciplined, obsessive-compulsive stay-at-home mama chicky. It was subtle, and confusing too, since so much that was redeeming, necessary and good was tangled up in what was not.

My own addiction was particularly bad during a time of depression that I went through a few years ago (though I didn't recognize it as such at the time)... however, I can now see that part of it was good too, since I was writing and sorting through things in a way that I wouldn't have, had I not been blogging... So you see, I've personally found that there are no easy answers here, but rather a need to be prayerfully guarding how I spend my time, each. and every. day.

Balance is key, and your family is probably a pretty reliable gauge. Pay attention to them and what they think or say about how you're spending your time, both individually and together as a family. Pray about what is healthy and most profitable, rather than simply permittable... That's a hard one, it's where I've been here recently.

For me, this computer issue is a love/hate thing. Honestly, realizing how much it's robbed me of precious time with my family already, time that I gave away, not appreciating its real value and fleeting nature for what it was/is has made me consider nixing it altogether, killing the blog, dumping facebook, etc. Instead, I've opted to just be more vigilant, resisting the urge to feel obligated to anything else before my family. I'm more careful now, more disciplined and really just more over it. ;-) I've come to love computer sabbaticals, and am consciously guarding my commitments made very carefully, both online and "in real life".

And it is with this in mind that I thought to share the following with you, which really struck a chord with me, from Spunky, over at SpunkyHomeschool:

Mom's on the Computer (or not) ...a song I recently rewrote (with apologies to Harry Chapin) as an intro to my upcoming workshop, iHelp for the eHome - learning to stay focused and use electronics and the Internet responsibly in an era that makes it all too easy to twitter our time away.

Mom's on the Computer (to the tune of Cat's in the Cradle.)

My computer arrived just the other day,
It came on the porch in the usual way
So many blogs to read and games to play
My child learned to walk, while I twittered away
And he was talkin’ for I knew it, as my friends list grew
He’d say I’m gonna be like you mom
You know I’m gonna be like you

And mom’s lost on the computer, lettin' dinner burn
Little boy wanders, he just wants to learn
When you getting off mom?
I don’t know when, but we’ll get together then
we're gonna have a good time then

My son turned ten just the other day
He said "thanks for the wii, mom, come on let’s play"
"Can you teach me how it works?" I said “Not today”
"I got a blog to write" he said “that’s okay”
And he walked away while the computer never dimmed
He said, “I’m gonna be like them, yeah”
You know I’m gonna be like them

And mom’s lost on the computer lettin' dinner burn
Little boy wanders, he just wants to learn
When you getting off mom?
I don’t know when, but we’ll get together then
We're gonna have a good time then

Well my son came home just the other day
iPod in his ears, while he texted away
"Son, I'm proud of you, can you sit for a while?"
He shook his head and he said with a smile
"I'd really like to Mom, but talkins' not my thing"
"Check my status, for what's happening"

And mom’s lost on the computer lettin' dinner burn
Little boy wanders, he just wants to learn
When you getting off mom?
I don’t know when, but we’ll get together then
You know we’ll have a good time then

Well my blog's retired and my Facebook out-of-date
My son texted, “Hey mom, I just can't relate"
I said, "I'd like to see you if you have some time."
He said, "I'd love to mom but skype if you don't mind."
"You see my website's down and my workload just grew."
"but it's sure nice texting with you, mom"
It's been sure nice texting with you."

And as I typed “c u later” it occurred to me
He'd grown up just like me
My boy was just like me

Embracing the adventure,

This article was featured at The Homeschool Post on Feb. 17, 2010.

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Feb
04

{365:20-22} sustenance

By Beth · Comments (10)

Sourdough loaves

{365:20} These two lovely sourdough loaves are my second batch, made from the wild sourdough starter that I *caught* using this recipe from Rebecca at Cooking without almost everything (thank-you!). I had just enough rye to mill and use with the starter recipe, and have now switched to feeding my mother starter fresh-milled hard red wheat. I think that I've found the perfect basic recipe for making our everyday sourdough bread/sandwich loaves.

I've been using Wardeh's Basic Sourdough recipe (thank you Wardeh!). If you're wondering why I'm even bothering learning how to make sourdough bread, then click here to read what Wardeh at GNOWFGLINS has to say regarding The Differences Between Quick Yeasted Bread and Wild Yeasted Sourdough Bread.

Sourdough loaves

{365:21} Sourdough loaves... again. Not the most exciting picture, I know, sorry. But you have to realize what these loaves here represent! Yes, not only are they super-nutritious, but the whole family agrees that they are delicious, and are requesting MORE! Successs, Yesssssss! I'm actually getting familiar with the process now, and I think I'm finding a rhythm with keeping them cycling so that we always have a loaf out to eat, a couple in the freezer and more *souring* to go in the oven... very fulfilling! Also, for the past month, I've kept us supplied with freshly baked home-made, whole grain breads! This is HUGE! It's been a goal of mine for a long time (years!), to actually reach the point where I'm baking all of the bread that we consume from scratch.

It's more economical, and healthier too! Whoo-hoo!

And speaking of economics...

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{365:22} My man (isn't he handsome?) had another job interview today, in Birmingham, AL! He feels like it went well... Two more weeks until we'll hear anything though. ACK! TWO more weeks of utter suspense!? Meanwhile, we're thanking Adonai for His provision and trusting Him to provide our daily bread, by prospering the work of my man's hands, even as He guides us into the future!

Let us not lose heart in doing good, for in due time we will reap if we do not grow weary.

~ Galatians 6.9

This 365 Project really is helping me update my blog here more regularly, isn't it? I have quite a few more posts on my list of things I'd like to share with ya'll, but hey... at least I'm posting something! :-)

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Feb
01

{365:19} snow

By Beth · Comments (8)

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Today the sun was shining brightly, beckoning us out of our warm little abode... and so we bundled up and headed out into what was left over from the 6" of snow we'd gotten on Friday.

My little snow princess loves to eat snow...

She kept taking off her little knit gloves too. How I love those pudgy little fingers.

After exploring our winter wonderland today, we went back inside, took a nice warm bath, ate some home-made chicken noodle soup, read a book and then we made snow-cream! It's been a beautiful day.

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I remember my Mom making this when I was little. It fascinated me...

Snow Ice Cream

4 cups snow
1/2 cup milk
1/4 cup sugar
1/2 tsp vanilla...
Mix everything but the snow together, pour over snow and stir to get it mixed and smooth! Enjoy!

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